Podcasts

We’re back! For those who don’t know, I took a 6 month break to relocate across the country. I’ve interviewed some incredible guests since moving to the Toronto area, and one person I was fortunate enough to meet is Dr. Chris Friesen.

He works with Olympic athletes, pro athletes, CEOs, entrepreneurs, and other high achievers to maximize their performance. Today, he shares the keys to success, and answers the questions you sent in last week.

In This Episode You’ll Learn About:

2:45 – Listener question: How does the brain’s dark energy effect sports performance?
3:20 – The secret to getting into “the zone”
5:00 – The keys to mental focus
7:10 – Learn which types of brain waves result in the best performance, and how you can measure them
9:45 – Listener question: How do you deal with adrenaline dumps and high pressure situations?
11:45 – Why being too calm is actually bad for performance (this one surprised me)
15:00 – How fighting your thoughts only makes them worse
17:25 – Biohacking your anxiety to de-stress
27:30 – Doctors were stumped… learn the simple biohack than can cure stomach problems
29:00 – Staying focused and being true to your values in the age of constant distraction
33:00 – The one major mental mistake that sabotages your ability to achieve

Listen to Episode 5: Dr. Chris Friesen on Biohacking, Focus, and Mental Performance

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Mark and I had some great conversations around taking ownership of your life. Most people operate on autopilot, and haven’t done what Mark calls a life audit.

In This Episode You’ll Learn About:

3:00 – “Waking up” to your life
6:00 – The 3 questions to ask before marriage
9:30 – Operating on “Catholic Autopilot”
10:40 – Why we resist “waking up”
16:00 – Auditing your Life
22:20 – Making positives out of negatives
24:20 – Redefining success in relationships
30:00 – Relationship bids, and why missing them is dangerous
32:40 – How to handle changing relationship priorities
36:45 – When do you have tough conversations
46:20 – Avoiding information overload and taking action
48:45 – Dealing with criticism when you try to change
51:45 – Handling the most important relationship of all
57:00 – Brains scans of people in marriage vs new relationships
59:30 – The importance of doing new things with your partner

Listen to Episode 4: Mark Groves on Living Intentionally and Creating Great Relationships:

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Links and topics from the episode:

1) Mark’s website can be found here. He posts new articles, videos, and answers your questions often! He has a podcast called “Just the Tip” (hahaha perfect name) coming out in April 2015.

2) Info on the AMAZING singles and couples retreats can be found here.

With the help of some AMAZING guests, the podcast thing is really taking off. Today we go deep into the core of relationship communication, and how to leverage the relationship psychology most people don’t know about.

Vienna tells you how to recognize signposts exposing subconscious fears, how to avoid conflicts by understanding your partners love map, and LOTS more.

Episode Guide:

1:20 – Physical Fitness and Mental Health
5:30 – The Communication Mistake That Kills Couples
9:00 – How Your Family Affects Your Communication Style
15:20 – The Importance of Partner Awareness and Stories
18:00 – Why You’re Drawn to the Wrong People Over and Over (I LOVED this part!)
22:30 – Keys to Connecting Deeper
26:00 – How to Remain Open to Love After Being Burned
29:00 – Do Your Fears Undermine Your Relationships?
32:45 – If You Haven’t Done This, You’re Not Self-Aware
36:00 – How the Best Couples Help Each Other Grow
38:25 – The Easy Way to Expose Your Subconscious Insecurities
40:20 – What Rabbits Teach Us About Relationships
43:00 – Replace Criticism with Curiosity
45:00 – Relationship Communication Quick Tips
51:00 – The Danger Of Relationship Quick Fixes

Listen to Episode 3: Vienna Pharaon on Communication, Awareness, and Social Programming

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Links and topics from the episode:

Some GREAT quotes from Vienna today:

“The words spoken to us become our inner dialogue with ourselves.”

“Every single one of us started in a place where someone else was telling us about ourselves, about what we
should believe.”

“We’re programmed to listen to other people tell us about ourselves.”

“Replace criticism with curiosity.”

1) Vienna’s site can be found here.
2) Info on the singles retreat (yoga, personal chef, California beaches!!) can be found here.
3) Vienna’s Instagram page with almost 20,000 (!!!) followers can be found here.

Really happy with the way things are going, another GREAT episode! Jennine Estes has more than a decade of experience working with couples, and today she shares a TON of amazing info on how to deal with infidelity, step by step – both for the partner who was cheated on AND the person who had the affair.

I love that because it’s an angle that’s rarely covered. If we shame people who cheat and don’t try to understand the underlying causes we can’t move forward.

Here’s a detailed breakdown of the show, links so you can listen to the episode, and a list of all the relevant links we mentioned in the show.

Episode Summary:

1:20 – If You’ve Had An Affair, Do This To Fix Your Relationship
5:10 – 5 Steps to Overcoming Infidelity in Your Relationship
7:35 – Long Term Affairs vs One Night Stands
16:00 – Admitting an Affair vs Being Caught
21:30 – What To Do When You Develop Feelings for Someone Else
25:15 – Dealing with Frustration and Anxiety caused by cheating
28:35 – Modern Technology and Cheating: texting, tinder and more
34:30 – If Needs Aren’t Met for Years, Is Cheating OK?
38:25 – Should You Change For Your Partner?
41:40 – How to Set Realistic Expectations Without Settling

Listen to Episode 2: Jennine Estes on Affairs, Infidelity, and Rebuilding Trust

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Links and Topics from the Episode:

1) Jennine’s (very nicely designed) website.

2) An AMAZING podcast by Jennine a fellow couples therapist on relationships. If you like what I cover, you’ll LOVE her podcast.

3) Jennine’s blog offering free relationship advice. She’s super knowledgeable and offers a ton of solutions to practical relationship problems.

The very first episode woop!!! Thrilled to have Dan Bolton as my first guest! Dan is a really smart guy and had a ton of great advice. He also has a FREE dating ebook you can download (link below).

We talked about a LOT of stuff. For your convenience (and because I have no life and nothing else to do anyway) I’ll be breaking down every episode right here on my site.

Episode Summary:

02:30 – Why a Relationship Won’t Solve Your Problems
05:00 – Regain Your Self-Esteem and Personal Power
06:45 – Overcoming the Fear of Rejection
13:15 – The Importance of Maintaining Individuality in a Relationship
19:00 – The Marriage Myth and How it Affects Divorce
25:30 – Reinventing Yourself After a Divorce
28:45 – How to Eliminate Negative Beliefs
31:50 – Online Dating Profile Tips for Men

Listen to Episode 1: Dan Bolton on Relationships, Divorce, and Overcoming Rejection

Links and Topics from the Episode:

Dan’s FREE eBook on Online Dating

Maslow’s Heirarchy of Human Happiness

Defeating Negative Thoughts With Cognitive Reframing